Why is there a debate over Carrie Fisher’s aging?

I suppose it’s just a normal event at this point, but I still don’t get it. Why do so many “fans” of public figures expect their heroes to never age, yet criticize them if they attempt plastic surgery or some other procedure to achieve said agelessness? Yes, Kenny Rogers’ eyes looked fucked up for years, but his surgery was done in an attempt to avoid the “He’s aged like shit” media. Renee Zellwiegerfoaihsfa (I think that’s how you spell her name) went through the same thing, and indeed looked kind of dire after all her procedures. But if she hadn’t? Well, she would have looked like shit anyway, according to whomever it is at Elle or Cosmo or whatever who makes those decisions for us.

My wife and I used to go to church with a woman who was in her early forties. Her hair was natural, had gone mostly grey but in streaks. She rarely wore make-up, and when she did it was hard to tell because she applied it gently, rather than applying it in anger. She was beautiful, and it wasn’t any kind of beauty that would be seen by the asshole People media. It was a calm, self-assured indifference. There was beauty in her allowing herself to age, and a beauty in her “fuck-you-if-you-don’t-like-it” attitude.

Maybe there’s no point to this rant, but when did ageing become a crime? Isn’t it better than the alternative? Would the haters be happier if Carrie Fisher had died, to be replaced with another brass-bikini wearing tentysomething? Of course not. They’d just tear the new girl down. “She’s not Carrie,” they would smuggly say.

And after all this, the “fans” talk about how good Harrison Ford looks. Fuck, I don’t know.

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2 responses to “Why is there a debate over Carrie Fisher’s aging?

  1. When it comes to aging, our culture has forgotten the Maiden/Mother/Crone way of thinking. Carrie Fisher had been a maiden way back when. In the meanwhile, unseen by most, she did her stint as a mother, and now she’s onto her way to cronehood.
    Our society adores the maiden. So much potential, such unblemished skin. It gives a semi-respectful nod to the mother, saying “You have reproduced, and we’ll treat you nice as long as you don’t your figure go too much. And as long as you maintain yourself.”
    The Crone has been forgotten. A woman past child-bearing age with wisdom and perspective, the one who can tell you that “This, too, shall pass.” The one with all that institutional memory in her line of work. She knows a lot, is comfortable in her wrinkled skin, and isn’t afraid to show it.
    Our society isn’t comfortable with the Crone. It reminds us of the inevitability of death.

    • Geez, it all comes back to mortality, doesn’t it. And unblemished skin, of course. Even as a guy who likes unblemished skin on women, I’m not going to cut someone down for aging. And even as the self-centered only child male that I am, the double standard angers me to no end.

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